Is it me or does it seem to others that just when you get a good thing going there seem to be forces working against you and the goal you are trying to attain. Today would have been day 1 of the third week of running at least 4 days a week for 3 weeks… but I am sick. I have the same respiratory crap going on that I did just before Christmas. It’s very disheartening.
This got me thinking about setbacks. I look back at the setbacks that I have had in my life and I realize that often times when I experience one, instead of looking at the setback as a challenge and rising to it, I see it is a destroyer of dreams (sorry couldn’t really think of anything else.) Basically, I give up.
Its funny how my mind works. I’m sure there are others out there who can relate to this scenario:
I wake up in the morning and make a wise decision to eat a bowl of oatmeal. I say to myself, “This is a pretty healthy decision, and I’m full from eating this bowl of oatmeal. I really can do this. I can eat healthy all of the time.” I have a pretty good morning and then proceed to drink about 3 or 4 cups of coffee. I’m on top of the world.
Lunch time. Well, I packed my lunch today so I pretty much have to eat whatever my mind thought at 7:00 AM would be good to eat at lunch. Because of the success with eating a good breakfast I usually pack a peanut butter and jelly sandwich (not too bad), carrot sticks, an apple (or some other fruit), and maybe a container of yogurt. Again another meal time success. Oh and I will also pack an apple for a snack to have between lunch and dinner.
The next place we stop is dinner. This is usually where I get into trouble. I realize the pattern. I have done well all day eating pretty healthy. But as soon as I come home it is time to wind down. After a full day of work food becomes my comfort. I might do well at dinner but then I eat again later on in the night. Once I eat more than my allowed calories I then go overboard. I eat whatever I feel like… and I keep eating. Even past the point of fullness. Eating after dinner is the setback but the setback becomes more than a setback and I just give up.
Repeat the process the next day.
So after that entire story you can see that I really don’t do well with setbacks. This carries over into many other areas of my life where I have set goals for myself but fall short and then once I have fallen short I give up.
What am I going to do?
Well, I think I have read that it is good to not look at things with an all or nothing attitude. Setbacks are just a reversal in the goal. You can be setback a step but then jump forward two more steps by overcoming it. Just because I eat a little more dinner than planned doesn’t mean the rest of the night is ruined. It means that I can take a look at what I did. Ask myself why I ate more than I wanted? Come up with a plan for what to do next time I want to eat more than planned. And continue the rest of the night with my ultimate goal in mind.
Of course this is easier said then done. But I will try.